Blog identity anxiety

So I’m 18 posts into this blogging thing and I’m starting to feel some pressure.  Self inflicted, of course. 

My friends who have blogs have a clear view of who or what they are presenting.  They know who their audience is and they know what they can and cannot share.  C DEFINITELY cannot post a link to a .  Come to think of it, neither can K.   K’s thing would be something like this:

Me? Not so much.

I’ve done a lot of research to see to whose blogs I related.  (Wow, while that’s grammatically correct, it sure was awkward.)  I’ve been obsessed with fashion blogs, enjoyed a few humorous sex blogs and of course, since I’m now part of this honored group, a bunch of mommyblogs.

Where has this gotten me?  Well, I’m sporting some threads that I wouldn’t have had confidence to do before.  This in part has led to the happier husband, but I might have to thank the Bloggess for that!   And wow, now I know how to make sun dresses out of dollar store dish towels.  Oh joy.

Closer to a bloggosphere voice?  Not really.

All this navel gazing makes me a little uncomfortable.  Introspection has never been my strong suit.  Just points out to me that I don’t have this strong sense of self…bit of a follower.  I think my psych prof would be proud that I remember the phrase “locus of control.”  Mine is out there…fate, chance or you gorgeous readers all hold the direction of this blog/my life. 

This external locus of control is really handy when I want to blame my husband for all the things wrong in my life.  But he and I both know that’s a fat lie.

I digress.

So, I’ll be following along some trite and true (funny how close that word is to “tried”) themed days as I work out the kinks.

Please stay along for the ride, won’t you?

10 Responses to Blog identity anxiety
  1. Mrsblogalot
    November 17, 2009 | 5:56 pm

    Inspiration comes up in the oddest places doesn't it?

    I'm just always grateful that it shows up at all (sometimes you never know)

    So glad you came by and that I could help (-:

  2. cynjay
    November 17, 2009 | 6:20 pm

    As much as C would LIKE to post a link to the willy warmers…sigh.

  3. injaynesworld
    November 18, 2009 | 1:02 pm

    You can never go wrong if you write for yourself. That's how you develop what I call "authenticity of voice" and, ultimately, that is what people respond to.

  4. Melissa
    November 19, 2009 | 4:19 pm

    You are doing great! My blog is all over the place – I definitely break the rules of having a specific "theme" but I feel like there's no one theme that would give me something to write about every day! I try to vary it enough to give people something new. Some days I have a million things I want to write, others I hear crickets when I sit down. You'll find your groove – looks like you are doing great to me!

  5. 6p011571198de3970c
    November 20, 2009 | 5:34 pm

    After several months and many more posts, you will start to learn more about yourself – what inspires you to get typing – and what you are willing to make time to do. It's less about the type of writer you are (you're quite good, so no worries there) and more about the type of person you are. Readers are attracted to good people who write well. Cheers to you, Amy and good luck!

  6. Blissed-Out Grandma
    November 21, 2009 | 5:48 pm

    You already have a great style, but I know what you mean. I was writing about cute grandkids but reading lots of witty folks who comment on life. For weeks I worried about branching out, and then I finally gave myself permission. A day or two later my husband complimented me on how I was developing my own voice. The models you follow may be "trite and true" but your writing will be original and from the heart.

  7. Quasi Serendipita
    November 21, 2009 | 6:23 pm

    I know how you feel! I haven't had my blog for very long and it hasn't quite settled into a niche yet. But there's time, and that's part of the fun :)

  8. Cairo Typ0
    November 22, 2009 | 7:45 am

    Stopping by from BPOTW! :D

    I've been blogging for four years and i'm not sure i have a "blogging identity." Write in a way and about things that make you happy. That's what blogging should be about. :)

  9. bettyl
    November 22, 2009 | 5:40 pm

    We all had to work our way through all sorts of emotional stuff to finally decide what our parameters are, but you 'll get there. In the meantime, just have FUN! That's what blogging is suppose to be.

  10. Martha
    November 23, 2009 | 1:12 pm

    Stopping by from Best posts of the week, bettyl's site, and I can so relate. I have been blogging for a year and a half and most of the times it's hit or miss.
    Blog for yourself is the best advice I've ever heard.
    Nice to meet you, Greetings from LA.

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