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Adonis, my DH, is a CPA. Every late winter, early spring he’s holed up in his office for 10 weeks straight, getting home late at night, exhausted, emotionally closed off and in his on world. His days off he just wants to sleep, maybe exercise or mow the lawn and escape to a fantasy world in a video game. And I miss him.
The first few years we were together, I would be lost for the first couple of weeks of his season before finding my footing, my old single self and return to my solitary life, my own schedule, my own world. His return was also an adjustment but it worked.
Then Maddy came along. First season, not bad, she was almost a year old and easily entertained and portable. Next season was terrible, she was demanding, frustrated and my own needs went unmet.
This year, this year has been hard.
He’s missed seeing her eat broccoli like its chocolate. He’s missed her shake her naked boom boom after a bath. He’s missed her retell her version of Superman, over and over. He’s missed her tantrums, her triumphs and her. And she misses him.He’s missed seeing the plum and cherry trees bloom. He’s missed helping me pick the flowers for the pots that dot our backyard. He’s missed the discoveries of what winter has left us. He’s missed spring.
He’s missed being there with me at the appointment when I found out we were having a son. He’s missed being there to hold my hand when I have questions about mine or my son’s health. He’s missed being there to document this pregnancy. He’s missed being there to feel our son move in my belly.
I’ve missed him when I need someone to move a heavy basket or reach the top shelf. I’ve missed him when Maddy and I butt heads. I’ve missed him when I just need some time to myself. I’ve missed him when I need to talk about my fears and frustrations.
I’ve missed him saying a kind word or showing me he cares. I’ve missed him touching me, holding me, moving me. And I’ve missed loving him.
Thank you Shell for giving me a place to share this!
Sounds like April 15th of this year may be the most necessary holiday, ever. *hug*
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Come on over, I’ll snuggle you while your CPA is filing returns.
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Oh, my friend, this breaks my heart.
He’s missing so much…and that knowledge must be tearing him apart.
I’m just a phone call away…I can hop in the car and be there in a flash.
Much love…
Ouch, what a hard time you’ve been having. I don’t know whether you had mentioned before that you’re having a boy. That’s exciting, right? Hang in there!
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I feel ya sista. Casey is a bankruptcy attorney so right now he is MIA. He also owns his own practice so tax time in a pain in the rear because our own taxes are due. Sigh.
The things that you mention that he has missed… I have missed work to observe. The little ones grow up way too fast to miss these experiences.
~shoes~
And I’ve missed loving him.
I disagree, you clearly haven’t. You just miss having him around to tell him these things.
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xoxo
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Awww this is so sad.
Hurry up April 15th!!
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I am so sorry – I was a CPA, and I never got used to busy season. There’s no good answer…just know it WILL end soon! And maybe look for some cushy industry job for him!
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It’s so sweet that you miss him so. You are lucky to have a man you love so much. While my husband is not a CPA, he is an entrepreneur and owns a business. All seasons are his season and he’s gone a lot. It’s so hard. I feel your pain. I hope you survive this season and he can return to being the wonderful husband he must be!
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What a beautiful post! As a military wife, I have missed my husband for more than a year at a time on several occasions. It doesnt get easier with experience. All I can say is that missing him means the love is alive, real, and raw. And that’s something. Hugs to you.
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I can relate to this post on so many levels. My husband works as the grounds manager for a local county-wide school district and works ridiculous hours in the winter to keep up with plowing. This time of year, I feel like a married single mom. I’m sending you long distance hugs and support. One month from today, it will be OVER!
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ugh. busy season is just no fun at all. sorry for both of y’all, and the bebes too.
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Now. This hurts. I hurt for you. I hurt for him. I hurt for my boys, the things I’m missing with them. My busy time isn’t 10 weeks, just 4 to 5 – but still. I’m not there. I hope he knows what he’s missing. And I hope you know I love ya.
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This has to be a hard time of year for your family. But, beautifully written.
And hopefully, these weeks will pass quickly for you.
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Oh man, this time of year sucks for CPA’s and their families. I’m so sorry. Hang in there, one more month to go!
I can completely relate to this post. My husband is a musician and toured for a year when our kids were 3 and 1. He missed so many small moments. But when he’s around to catch those moments, it’s amazing.
((hugs))
Come over and I’ll spoon you real good.
Ohh, beautiful and heart breaking! Hang in there my friend!
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Awww! I totally know what you mean. My husband keeps horrible work hours/days. He misses out on lots too. A necessary evil, I guess?